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When I thought 'I need to eat' one night, I suddenly remembered The Work. I turned it around 'I don’t need to eat.' I didn’t eat, for the first time in years. I couldn't believe it.
Eliza • Certified Addictions Counselor
I have had more peace in the last week and a half since discovering this program than I've had in, maybe, ever. Amazing is not a big enough word.
Diana• Small Business Owner
Grace Bell, Feb 2023
When we want to make a change, even for a very long time...
...there are often three fundamental beliefs about change that keep us from being able to do it.
1. We believe we need more information, more research, more "work".
If I could just find the key, THEN I'll change. I'll stop.
Our thoughts tell us about this need for more, for seeking, and push us to keep moving: "The answer is out there! It may be right around the corner!"
Sometimes we even shut down helpful advice or insight because we're so busy researching the need for "more" or "different".
2. The second underlying belief that blocks change is the belief we must do it alone.
Well, it certainly seems so. We are a unique organism (our bodies, our memories, our names, our birthdays).
Problem is, feeling alone is can be discouraging when trying to make a change, and isolating.
Plus we might feel torn about having to let go of our individuality.
What if someone tells me what to do, and I don't like it? Or can't do it?
3. Finally what makes change difficult is our uncanny ability to push emotional pain into the unconscious. To suppress pain deep inside and bury it.
It's useful we can do this. It helps us continue to function, navigate our daily lives, maintain sanity.
But if we don't move past these three very common ways of working with change....
...we can get trapped in self-sabotage cycles like procrastination, addictive eating or drinking, people-pleasing for ages. We can get totally overwhelmed by emotion like frustration, loneliness or anxiety. We can think and think and think about something upsetting.
So how do we transform?
I thought 'I need to eat' one night, then I suddenly remembered The Work. I turned it around 'I don’t need to eat.' I didn’t eat, for the first time in years. I could hardly believe it worked.
Eliza • Licensed Addictions Counselor
I have had more peace in the last week and a half since discovering this program than I've had in, maybe, ever. Amazing is not a big enough word.
Diana • Small Business Owner
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How to overcome embarrassing and discouraging self-sabotage, troubling feelings, or stressful thinking....
....so you can peacefully navigate difficult situations, enjoy life, and feel freedom....
....without hurting yourself, working super hard, or having the right plan.
Thursday, Sept 7th 9:30am PT/ 12:30pm ET/ 6:30pm Paris
Good news.
These underlying beliefs about what it takes to change can be questioned, and shifted. We can approach change in a completely new way.
This mini-workshop introduces a step-by-step process for transforming self-sabotage, big troubling feelings, and stressful thinking that begins with turning around these beliefs about change.
When we stop trying to change by searching for the answer out there, feeling alone with our problem, or burying difficult emotions...we're free to understand our self-sabotaging behaviors, feelings and thinking patterns, and learn from them.
Binge-eating fades (like I suffered from), all other addictions drop, procrastinating, too much screen time, nail-biting, over-planning/ under-planning, people-pleasing, co-dependency, ruminating, anxiety....
....all of these transform from frustration, heart ache and suffering....
....to unshakable peace.
And it doesn't take willpower or discipline!
In the mini-workshop, you will learn not only how to approach change by turning these three beliefs around, but how to tune in to what your particular self-sabotage habit(s) want to share with you, what to do when feelings come to call in a stormy way, and how to feel confident about effectively working with your stressful thinking when it appears.
When you can do this, you can trust yourself. You can enter difficult situations and navigate through them, you can take care of yourself with kindness, you can make conscious decisions (rather than unconscious or fearful decisions).
Sign up for my free MINI-WORKSHOP to understand your blind spots about difficult behaviors, feelings and thoughts we all think, and how to dissolve them: